What it means: I would rather risk getting myself into sticky and messy situations than take care of myself. At first, I thought this was a long shot, but it now makes complete sense. I have difficulty getting my needs met first, even if it means a risk. If I don't ask for a garbage can, I risk the gum sticking to the inside of my jeans; if I do, I take care of myself first, even if it means interrupting our session momentarily.
Getting my needs met first: Meaning, taking care of what I need even if it involves slightly inconveniencing others. Personally, this means setting appropriate boundaries to maintain safety and security in relationships; asking for help; and speaking my mind rather than allowing others' opinions to take precedence.
I'll continue to explore the theme of boundaries in later posts. For now:
Do you have any unique quirks that may mean something?
Have you identified where you need to set boundaries in your life?
well.. what i do is that i cant look someone in the face when i talk to them. i look the opposite direction. it usually bothers them alot, but i do it becuase im too scared to look into their eyes cuase it feels as if im leaving myself vulnerable and there to let them read me. i hate that. i get too scared that they will see into me. i've also realized that i need to set boundaries when someone ruins my trust. i always give 2nd chances, forgive and forget... but that can only work out so long. its best to give people space and time in order for things to work out for the both of you. life will bring you back together if it allows it. yah know? by the way, loved your post. had to comment on this.
ReplyDeleteThis is really interesting. It's interesting how people often overlook the little things that they do (or don't do) to take care of themselves.
ReplyDeleteI can't really think of quirks as such at the moment, but I know I have many. I just need people to point them out. I have one strange quirk that I can think of, but I don't think it means anything. I tend to subconsciously wink when I talk. Particularly when I get excited about things.
There's a LOT of boundary setting that needs to be done in my life. I need to set boundaries when it comes to the work load that I put on myself during the school year. I am so anal about school, about food, about sports and clubs and everything I do, I tend to forget to leave time to relax. I realize this, and I'm working on it. Of course, the food part is the eating disorder, and that takes a lot of time and effort in and of itself. Everywhere else it's just me.
Interesting post...
♥Alexandra